Tuesday, July 29, 2008

What About Love?

Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate! ~Sandra J. Dykes

I've been missing my dog, Bailey, quite a bit lately. It's been nearly a year since she crossed the rainbow bridge, and I still think about her pretty much every day. I imagine that will change with more time, but it's still pretty raw and I'm easily brought to tears by her memory.

I love my new dog, Dakota. I do... but I find myself comparing my feelings. Do I love her as much as I loved Bailey as a puppy? How much would it hurt if I lost her now? Will I ever love her as much as I loved Bailey? Will it be the same kind of love?

All this led me to think about feelings of love in general. For instance, I have a family member I love very much, but there are times I don't like her. She's difficult to be around, though I understand that has changed a bit. She can be very negative and judgemental, and for someone like me -- who already struggles with feeling low -- it makes life difficult. But I love her.

OTOH, there are other family members I love AND like. Does that mean I love them more? Or just differently?

What about romantic love? If I loved someone before my DH, but didn't marry him, does that mean I loved him less than my DH? Or just differently? Does love go away or do you always love someone?

How do you quantify or categorize love?

I'm feeling terribly philosophical today. Or maybe I just need another cup of coffee.


I'm going to make pickles today. I have... well, a LOT of cucumbers. Lots, and lots, and lots. I gave away several, but I really like pickles and wanted to try my hand at it. We'll see how it goes. I hope it doesn't flop like my strawberry jam.


DD gets to see a sugar glider today for her Summer Reading Program! She's so excited. We have to be there early, and we have a lot to do today, but that's okay. After all, how often do you get to see a sugar glider up close?



You Would Make an Okay 1930's Wife

You have some of the attributes of an ideal 1930's wife... but you probably didn't intend it to be that way.

You don't buy into retro gender roles, though you do embrace your femininity at times.

A 1930's man may find you passable, but you probably wouldn't want anything to do with him.


keri mikulski :) said...

I love quizzes. :) Thanks for posting.

Sorry about your doggie. Sending hugs. :) Negative people - yuck.

I can't say I categorize love. But, I do put people in different boxes. People I love. People I like. People I have to deal with. :) Wait, I guess I do.

Once I love some, I'l always love them, but I might not like them anymore.

MaryF said...

One of my students last year had a sugar glider as a pet. He got it at a flea market in Dallas and brought it to school a couple of times. It was SO cute but made the oddest noises!

Dru said...

Love is a funny word letter word and I think there are various degrees of how much you love someone or not.

re: quiz: I would make an okay 1930's wife.

THe sugar glider reminds me of a chipmunk.

Enjoy your Tuesday.

Melissa said...

Hugs on missing Bailey.

Love is one of those things that's hard to figure out. I love all of my animals, but each has a different personality and wants love a different way. That doesn't mean I love any less, but how I show it is different.

People can be the same way. And I think you don't have to like someone to love them. Or if you don't like them that you love them less. Just that if you like them it can make loving them a little easier.

Maria Zannini said...

>>Will I ever love her as much as I loved Bailey? Will it be the same kind of love?

Having had so many dogs over the years, I've found I love them differently. Not only because they had different personalities, but also because I was different.

You won't feel for Dakota what you felt for sweet Bailey, but you'll love her in a different way. And when Dakota is old and gray, you'll hug on her more and wish for one more day together.

I know losing Bailey still hurts. Isis has been gone 3 years. I find I cry less and laugh more when I remember all the crazy things she did.

Hugs, Marianne.

Tori Lennox said...

*hugs* on missing Bailey.

I got the same thing on the quiz. And they're right. I didn't intend it that way. I'd keep snacks on hand for myself not just because my suposed husband might like them. *g*

Brandy said...

Love is different, no matter what we intend. I do love one of my kitties more than the others, but I still love the others, jut differently.
I've seen a Suga Glider, they are so cute! Your DD will enjoy it. *g*
I hope you have a great day.

Same on the quiz, btw.

Allie Boniface said...

My gosh, that IS philosophical!